21 Things a 21-Year-Old wish she knew when she was 20

21 Things a 21-Year-Old wish she knew when she was 20

I’ve been 21 for a few months now. No, I don’t really feel old. Begal the legal drinking age is not all the big hoopla that everyone makes it out to be. Adulting is kind of boring, although I feel more an adult than I did at 18 (why is that considered the “adult” age, anyway?). Yet, despite this age, there are SO many things I still don’t know and wish I did know, especially before I became this age.

  1. Don’t stand on ceremony. By this I mean it is not a requirement to be overly formal and, dare I say, pretencious to get what we want. I’ve found that people are a little more willing to converse with someone who is not uptight.
  2. Feeling like an idiot from time to time is healthy. Perhaps I did know this subconciously, but I chose to remain ignorant of its wisdom.
  3. Don’t stay put. Oh dear fellow young people, don’t stay where you are! Please have at least one adventure before you turn 21. It will just become harder with each passing year.
  4. Start a retirement fund…now! Did you know if you start saving just $4,500 each year at age 20, you’ll have $1 million by age 65?
  5. Living alone is great! It has its perks.
  6. Living alone sucks. It has its downfalls.
  7. How to let go and move on. The elusive art of “let it go” didn’t seem to come to our attention until Elsa sung about it.
  8. How to meet people. It certainly is a skill, not limited to the social butterfly.
  9. Don’t be stingy. You’ll never be content.
  10. Volunteer! It looks good everywhere.
  11. There’s nothing special about alcohol. But there’s definitely something potentially dangerous about it, so show some respect.
  12. The basics of investment. And all things money!
  13. The years fly by. Please don’t let them pass you up.
  14. There’s no harm in taking a break. Burn-out is a rough path to tread.
  15. School rocks! Learning is fun ūüėÄ
  16. Start that business now. It will take a few years to get off the ground, so do it. Now!
  17. If you’re not good with kids…go work with kids. You don’t have to be a full-time daycare teacher. It’s just a very good thing to know, as children will eventually cross your path in one way or another.
  18. Establish your dating standards now. It saves a lot of time and awkward conversations. Not to mention possible heartbreak.
  19. Take care of yourself first. You can’t help someone else until you’re steady on your feet first.
  20. Learn a second language. It does wonders for your general learning capacity. Plus you have a step up in job applications.
  21. How to wait with grace. Waiting sucks, especially if its for your dreams to come true. There’s a graceful way to do it.

 

What things do you wish you knew before you were 21?

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Don’t wait to “Let it Go”

Don’t wait to “Let it Go”

Before you roll your eyes because I have apparently quoted the by-now-overrated song from¬†Frozen,¬†I’m not necessarily quoting it. If we’re quoting anything here, it would be the James Bay song (which by the way is a great song! You should listen).

I am saying don’t wait to let it go in the simple context of what the phrase means. Recently, I found myself saying this to a friend. Someone who is kind of “waiting around” to let go of something is never going to succeed at getting rid of it. They’re waiting for feelings, emotions, circumstances to help the process along, but all of that is working against you. Natural human emotions¬†will¬†never¬†let something go. So you have to make them.

Rather than waiting for yourself to let something go, make the decision to leave it behind. “I just need to let it go,” you say. And you say, for months upon months. Maybe years. But it’s not going away. Leaving something behind sometimes takes physical maneuvers. Changing jobs, cutting off communication, moving locations, resisting temptation, starting a new relationship…these are some big but extremely helpful ways to leave something behind. And other times it just requires you to work your mental and psychological muscles everyday until it becomes easier.

If you wait around to “let it go,” either by waiting for your feelings to subside or circumstances to change, it’s not going anywhere. Choose to let go NOW. It’ll be harder, yes, but that unwanted past will be gone sooner.

A balance of Faith thru Action & Faith thru Waiting

A balance of Faith thru Action & Faith thru Waiting

Faith-confidence or trust in a person or thing; belief that is not based on proof.

 

What¬†does it¬†profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him?¬†If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food,¬†and one of you says to them, ‚ÄúDepart in peace, be warmed and filled,‚ÄĚ but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what¬†does it¬†profit?¬†Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead….Do you see that faith was working together with his works, and by works faith was made perfect?…For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.
-James 2:14-26

 

Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.
-Psalm 27:14

For we through the Spirit, by faith, are waiting for the hope of righteousness.
-Galatians 5:5

I will take my stand at my watchpost and station myself on the tower, and look out to see what he will say to me, and what I will answer concerning my complaint. And the¬†Lordanswered me: ‚ÄúWrite the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end‚ÄĒit will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.
Habakkuk 2:1-3

 

Everyone, and not just Christians, have different ideas and discuss what faith entails. When I think of it in terms of action, I remember this one activity at youth camp called “Leap of Faith,” in which one or two people stood on a very narrow wooden post (which often shook like madness), some 10 or 15 feet high, with harnesses of course, and had to jump from it and grab onto a pole approximately five or six feet away. It was a leap of faith because, even though the harness rope would catch you eventually, you really did fall for a few split seconds unless you successfully grabbed that pole. When I think of faith in terms of waiting, I think of Job from the Bible, who had his entire life practically taken away from him, but he stayed passive and did nothing but continue to trust and worship God. It was a very long and strenuous time of waiting. Then everything plus some was restored to him.

More often than not, the “waiting in faith” concept is more commonly practiced, either intentionally or unintentionally. There is certainly faith in living by “I give it to God and he will take care of it.” But if that is your method year upon year, and nothing changes, then it’s either lack of balance or, sometimes, honest-to-goodness laziness. At the same time, if you constantly live by “walking it out in faith” and take leaps of faith at every corner, you’re more so taking personal initiative and forgetting to stop and listen to God, and, though boldness is an admirable trait, it is possible to be a little too bold. You’re basically throwing caution to the wind.

Throughout our lives, we encounter¬†events and decisions that force us to choose waiting in faith or stepping out in faith. I have had so many moments when I waited longer than I needed, and in result it made me miserable and frustrated. Other times I took action too soon, and it fell through. The success of our decisions is based on whether it’s God’s timing or not. And I believe that God gives us equal amounts of waiting and taking action. He’s a God of balance, after all. So how do we know which kind of faith to operate in at each specific time? Listen to God, and by that, pay attention to the signs. Your heart will tell you, your closest people will tell you, and doors will open or shut. If doors seem to keep closing, then it’s time to wait. If doors seem to keep opening, then it’s time to take action.

The most important thing is, with either, it will always involved having faith in God. When you’re waiting, you’re believing that God will bring about the solution outside of your own effort. When you’re stepping out, you’re¬†placing a dependence on God that is beyond what you could achieve if you were standing still.

 

What are some personal stories of your journey with these two kinds of faith?

 

 

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

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It’s very likely that you’ve heard this phrase before. Thus, it probably just whisks by in our brains without much thought. But, honestly truly, would you have an answer if you did think about it, and I mean really think about it?

In this alternate reality, what would you go for? I know for myself, I would straight up go for every dream that’s on my heart, the ones I’ve been chipping away at to make happen. There’s much chipping happening because I want to be prepared so as to not fail. But in this world, I would do everything right now. Maybe, perhaps, even go for the things I’m afraid of.

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Is that it, then? We would go for the things we’re afraid to do? Makes sense. Why else do we hold back from doing things? Because of fear of failure. Now, yes, we all know that kind of reality of never failing isn’t possible, but perhaps we should live as if it were.

As JK Rowling said, “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” There is some good in being safe than sorry, in waiting, in preparing yourself, but there’s even greater good in taking risks, in trying and failing, in experimenting. Whenever someone tries to explain to me why they haven’t gone for something yet, I usually say, “Well, at least¬†do something.” Depending on the action, wisdom just might be to wait on the right timing, but if that’s all you ever do, then nothing will happen. And I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have something going on in my life then get stuck in limbo. Yes, even if it’s not such a good thing, because I can always grow from it.

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So, what¬†would¬†you do if you knew you couldn’t fail, hmm? One thing I would do is ask my best friend if I could pray a prayer of salvation with her and lead her to the Lord. What would you do? Share about it in the comments.

Today’s the Day…Romans 15:4

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“Such things were written in the scriptures long ago to teach us. And the scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s purpose to be fulfilled.”-Romans 15:4

One thing stands out: we wait patiently. Perhaps there’s something you’re waiting for…it’s the scriptures that give us hope and encouragement while we wait.

Today’s the Day you’ve been waiting for. Now make a reason why.

 

A Poem A Day #400

Is it really poem #400? How exciting! Feels satisfying ūüôā

Wait for a story to begin

With a sprig of baby’s breath
On my desk, I almost feel ready,
Ready to conquer the world.
With my hair turned up
And my favorite fuzzy socks on,
I’m prepared to face the worst.
There is paper all about,
And words in the air.
A greeting card, a token,
Of someone who cares.
Aloe vera sitting tight
For when the sunburns
Start to burn again;
I’m ready for the world to happen.
I wait for a story to begin.