21 Things a 21-Year-Old wish she knew when she was 20

21 Things a 21-Year-Old wish she knew when she was 20

I’ve been 21 for a few months now. No, I don’t really feel old. Begal the legal drinking age is not all the big hoopla that everyone makes it out to be. Adulting is kind of boring, although I feel more an adult than I did at 18 (why is that considered the “adult” age, anyway?). Yet, despite this age, there are SO many things I still don’t know and wish I did know, especially before I became this age.

  1. Don’t stand on ceremony. By this I mean it is not a requirement to be overly formal and, dare I say, pretencious to get what we want. I’ve found that people are a little more willing to converse with someone who is not uptight.
  2. Feeling like an idiot from time to time is healthy. Perhaps I did know this subconciously, but I chose to remain ignorant of its wisdom.
  3. Don’t stay put. Oh dear fellow young people, don’t stay where you are! Please have at least one adventure before you turn 21. It will just become harder with each passing year.
  4. Start a retirement fund…now! Did you know if you start saving just $4,500 each year at age 20, you’ll have $1 million by age 65?
  5. Living alone is great! It has its perks.
  6. Living alone sucks. It has its downfalls.
  7. How to let go and move on. The elusive art of “let it go” didn’t seem to come to our attention until Elsa sung about it.
  8. How to meet people. It certainly is a skill, not limited to the social butterfly.
  9. Don’t be stingy. You’ll never be content.
  10. Volunteer! It looks good everywhere.
  11. There’s nothing special about alcohol. But there’s definitely something potentially dangerous about it, so show some respect.
  12. The basics of investment. And all things money!
  13. The years fly by. Please don’t let them pass you up.
  14. There’s no harm in taking a break. Burn-out is a rough path to tread.
  15. School rocks! Learning is fun ūüėÄ
  16. Start that business now. It will take a few years to get off the ground, so do it. Now!
  17. If you’re not good with kids…go work with kids. You don’t have to be a full-time daycare teacher. It’s just a very good thing to know, as children will eventually cross your path in one way or another.
  18. Establish your dating standards now. It saves a lot of time and awkward conversations. Not to mention possible heartbreak.
  19. Take care of yourself first. You can’t help someone else until you’re steady on your feet first.
  20. Learn a second language. It does wonders for your general learning capacity. Plus you have a step up in job applications.
  21. How to wait with grace. Waiting sucks, especially if its for your dreams to come true. There’s a graceful way to do it.


What things do you wish you knew before you were 21?

Don’t wait to “Let it Go”

Don’t wait to “Let it Go”

Before you roll your eyes because I have apparently quoted the by-now-overrated song from¬†Frozen,¬†I’m not necessarily quoting it. If we’re quoting anything here, it would be the James Bay song (which by the way is a great song! You should listen).

I am saying don’t wait to let it go in the simple context of what the phrase means. Recently, I found myself saying this to a friend. Someone who is kind of “waiting around” to let go of something is never going to succeed at getting rid of it. They’re waiting for feelings, emotions, circumstances to help the process along, but all of that is working against you. Natural human emotions¬†will¬†never¬†let something go. So you have to make them.

Rather than waiting for yourself to let something go, make the decision to leave it behind. “I just need to let it go,” you say. And you say, for months upon months. Maybe years. But it’s not going away. Leaving something behind sometimes takes physical maneuvers. Changing jobs, cutting off communication, moving locations, resisting temptation, starting a new relationship…these are some big but extremely helpful ways to leave something behind. And other times it just requires you to work your mental and psychological muscles everyday until it becomes easier.

If you wait around to “let it go,” either by waiting for your feelings to subside or circumstances to change, it’s not going anywhere. Choose to let go NOW. It’ll be harder, yes, but that unwanted past will be gone sooner.

Today’s the Day…Romans 15:4

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“Such things were written in the scriptures long ago to teach us. And the scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s purpose to be fulfilled.”-Romans 15:4

One thing stands out: we wait patiently. Perhaps there’s something you’re waiting for…it’s the scriptures that give us hope and encouragement while we wait.

Today’s the Day you’ve been waiting for. Now make a reason why.